The Grieving Has Begun
Now that everyone has gone home and the house is again quit, the pain and grieving officially begins. No one wishes this on anyone. The process to settle into this new “normal” will take longer than expected. All good things usually do.
But there are things to keep in mind as we think about the loss of our loved one and the beginning of this new life.
1-It’s okay if you are having a hard time even getting out of bed
Things like taking a shower, going to the grocery store, leaving the house for any reason, or even visiting a close friend becomes almost impossible. That’s okay. It feels like it will last forever – but it won’t. Know that life is going to be hard for a time – not permanently.
2-Express your thoughts and feelings
Start a journal. Make an appointment with a counselor. Reach out to the mortuary and ask about grief classes. Go online to griefshare.com and find a group near you and GO! Get that off your heart and share it with others who care.
3-Honor and celebrate your loved ones during holidays
Add special ornaments to your Christmas tree. Have some friends over on anniversary. If your loved one loved hot dogs at Costco, go eat a hot dog at Costco and taker a friend with you.
4-Resist living in the past – live in the moment with those who love you
It’s easy to dwell on the past and lose opportunity for joy in the moment. It’s super easy to get stuck in the past. There are times for thinking about the past but when you have an opportunity to share a special moment with someone one loves you, GRAB IT!
5-Don’t lose HOPE!
You’re not the first to endure this kind of pain. This is not meant to suggest you should be “over it” by now. It will take time. More for some, less for others. But eventually you will smile and laugh again! It will happen,
6-Ask for help
You know in your heart who is willing and able to help you. Not everyone who offers, can. But some can and will. Call them. They want to help – you certainly would help them and enjoy helping them if the table was turned. Reach out for assistance. They are waiting
Pastor Randy WIlliams
Arizona Hills Community Church
Anthem, Arizona
Celebrate & Remember Funeral Pastor 