When someone experiences loss, many of us want to help—but we’re often afraid of saying or doing the wrong thing. Grief can feel overwhelming, not only for those who are mourning, but also for those who love them.
Jesus said,
“Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.” (Matthew 5:4)
One of the primary ways God brings comfort is through people. We may not be able to remove someone’s pain, but we can walk with them through it. Below are four meaningful ways to help others who are mourning and grieving.
1. Be Present, Even When You Don’t Have Words
You do not need the perfect sentence to be helpful. In fact, presence often matters more than words. Sitting quietly, listening, or simply being nearby communicates care more powerfully than advice or explanations.
Avoid trying to fix the grief. Mourning is not a problem to solve—it is a burden to share.
2. Listen More Than You Speak
Grieving people often need space to talk about their loved one, their loss, and their emotions—sometimes repeatedly. Allow them to tell their story without correcting, rushing, or minimizing their pain.
Phrases like “I’m so sorry” or “I’m here with you” are often far more comforting than answers to questions no one can fully answer.
3. Offer Practical Help
Grief can make everyday tasks feel overwhelming. Simple acts of service—bringing a meal, helping with errands, watching children, or assisting with funeral arrangements—can be a profound gift.
Instead of saying, “Let me know if you need anything,” consider offering something specific. Practical care is a tangible expression of love.
4. Continue Caring After the Service Is Over
Support often fades after the funeral, but grief does not. Remembering important dates, checking in weeks or months later, or sending a note can make a significant difference.
Long-term faithfulness communicates that the grieving person has not been forgotten—and that their sorrow still matters.
A Final Encouragement
You may feel inadequate when trying to help someone who is grieving. That is okay. God does not ask us to carry one another’s grief perfectly—only faithfully.
When we show up, listen, serve, and stay, we become instruments of the comfort Jesus promised. In doing so, we reflect the heart of a God who draws near to the brokenhearted.
If you or someone you love is facing loss and needs pastoral support or help planning a funeral or memorial service, you are not alone. Care, prayer, and guidance are available.
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